Marriage is like a public declaration of love and loyalty. People make oaths and they say to all those people around them that they are in love and they will remain in love with each other till the end of life, but, you know what, I think that true feelings are sacred and they take only two people. They take only two people and there are only two of them to be involved in those relationships. I believe in case people are truly in love with each other they need no witnesses and they need no people to believe in their love because they are sure about there is love between them. So, there is no need to prove it with public oaths and that stamp and the whole stuff. I believe that in case people are in love with each other they can stay together without all those proofs and without stamps. They need nothing of that kind because there are just two of them needed to keep that love and to save it, and it is enough tow of them to keep that fire burning and to keep that ship sailing. There is no point in marriage in case people have no love and no point in it in case they are in love.

People are married and they have the whole life in common. They have everything in common. They spend days together and they fall asleep together and they wake up together and so on and so forth. Though, it sometimes happens that one day they wake up and realize they don’t belong to each other anymore and the only possible way out for them is the way of divorce. Divorce hurts, divorce means that everything you had, were for nothing and now it is over and new life starts. Divorce means that love is gone and there is no life in common anymore and there is nothing in common at all. It hurts, so I guess there is no reason to make it more painful than it is. I guess in case there is no more life in common it is better to leave right this moment and say your last good-bye. If there is no love there is no reason to be together, just leave and never let those financial and material natters to spoil and ruin everything beautiful you had. I believe that mental is over material and so for the sake of love you used to have don’t spoil everything with severance, just leave. 

When is someone too young for marriage? Oddly, the acceptable age for marriage continues to increase with each passing generation. For many people, the ripe old age of fourteen was once an acceptable age for marriage. Their grandchildren, however, are not right for an early marriage and they need time to mature. Parents are perpetually insisting that marriage is one of those things that their children need to wait for, provided that they don’t wait for too long.

Marriage is a personal choice. The divorce rate proves that we don’t always make the best decisions but overall these decisions our yours to make despite the opinions of an overbearing mother or a distant father. Your decision to marry young or old can really only be about what makes you happy. You are not placed on this planet so that you can make your parents happy with your decision to enter into a marriage. This is vital for anyone who is getting married (or leaving a marriage) to understand. Marriage is about your best judgment based on your feelings at the time. There are no guarantees no matter how long you choose to wait and there are no guarantees that your tomorrow involves a white picket fence. The only guarantee you have is that things will change and you will be able to make decisions about yourself as they change. Marriage doesn’t change who you are any more than deciding not to marry young changes who you are. It shifts your priorities but you retain the amazing ability to choose your own life.

So the first marriage didn’t work out so well. This might have you worried about the potential for the success of a second marriage. In all honesty most marriages work when two people simply decide to make them work, but everyone is entitled to a mistake. A second marriage works better when you can recognize the reasons for the failure of the first marriage.

The one time that you can be relatively sure that a second marriage isn’t likely to work is when it is borne from an affair. If you or your new lover left the first marriage for the heat of the affair the chances of it lasting through a second marriage are slim. This is because there is much to be had in the passion of an affair that can feel a lot like love but eventually dies down. This is about the time when someone who wants more of that tingly and restless feeling goes off looking for another affair. The question should always be asked, if he or she was willing to cheat on their partner the first time why should you expect to be any different in another two years?

Second marriages can be much more successful simply because of the lessons learned during the first marriage. Many first marriages are rushed into during the youth of our life and we need a little distance and perspective to understand why we were in such a hurry and how the marriage collapsed. You can’t help when a new love comes along after the first marriage dissolves, but you might not wish to hurry to get married until you understand the reasons for the failure of the first marriage.

Psychologists believe that the only way to create a successful family after an unsuccessful first-Union - to think about their own internal systems. Feverish search for a suitable partner or caring for their shell, for fear of new pain and there is no way out. Having experienced the pain and grief, weep screamed off anger and resentment, it is time to heed the advice of outsiders. Three postulates, which are said by psychiatrists, you need to understand each striving for a happy new marriage, at first glance it does not pose a new element. 
1. Find that other people are not like me and accept this. 
2. Realize that other people - not the enemy, and difference no hostility. 
3. To learn that the marriage can and should be built only dialogical space. You can not erase under a different person. That’s bad for someone who feels the pressure and the second partner. 
For external simplicity of these lines hiding serious soul that is best done with the help of a professional or a loved one, looking at the world from another angle. Just think of the branches will help to avoid deadlock, which gets everyone on the labyrinth of wandering between the first and second Union. Self-refluxing about the failed marriage, a person in danger asserts their own righteousness and infallibility. Such a position in psychology is called «I - well, it is - bad». Provoking self, a person can not see their mistakes and always took the position of an authoritarian teacher. 
If the divorce is too much hit the self, a person can choose the status of victim and «receive secondary benefits from the sweet sentiments», - says psychiatrist. «Such an individual and in the next marriage will be so direct their married life, to get in a situation of victims.